My boyfriend had an online dating profile
We are committed and we have been together a while.I cannot admit to snooping in his computer to find evidence of this but now that I know (and on this particular site you can see that he is logging in almost daily) do you think it's just to get his jollies online or does it sound like I have to worry about him leaving or cheating.
Hi Guys, My boyfriend has just walked out on me after three years of what I thought was a great relationship. Yes, you did breach the trust of your relationship by snooping, but we can assure you that you’re not the one who caused irreparable damage to the relationship. Because otherwise we can’t see how you could “accidentally” discover he was on a dating site.I have to admit, things have been rocky but for the most part we've been able to get past all of our obstacles of long-distance hardships and trust issues.Recently, I found out that he had downloaded apps on his phone (Tinder and How About We) sometime after I moved away.I'll be seeing him in less than a week for the first time in months to celebrate our four-year anniversary, and I don't know what to do and how I should address it assuming I even mention it.I'm scared this might be the end of our perfect love." Oof. I should point out that our friends at How About We do have services for couples, not just singles…but I can't really explain away Tinder, so I think you're right to be concerned.And what I really hope is that he either has a good explanation or that it didn't go any further than a moment of curiosity. (If it went further, well, that's a much bigger issue.
Let's assume for now that didn't happen.)It's hard to speculate since I don't know much of your background together, but I'm wondering if your guy was really all that comfortable with and supportive of your decision to move away to grad school?
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Tell him frankly but calmly how exactly you came across the information (be prepared for some defensiveness, even if you came across it honestly), and then say that while you aren't accusing him of anything, you'd really like to know his motivation for downloading apps for dating.
What I hope is that he'll tell you openly and honestly why he downloaded these apps and how far he went once he did.
But I'm still concerned about your relationship status.